August 16, 2005

April 16, 2019
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It was a pilgrimage (of sorts) to Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris to light a candle in my mother’s memory on her birthday.

The visit was part of a lifelong wish to see The City of Light.  I took the trip of a lifetime in August 2005. It was a goal to go to a place that I had been fascinated with since I discovered this magical area when I was 10 years old from a book I had seen in the public library (way back in 1969). This was the same year I discovered the Italian version of The Good, The Bad and The Ugly in a darkened auditorium on the USC campus, the Swarovski swan and the Movado watch museum piece (that’s a story for another day) in a National Geographic magazine.

My mother was a devout Catholic most of her adult life and I could think of no better way to honor her memory than by going to Cathedrale Notre-Dame de Paris,

to light a candle in her honor at the 2nd best place to do so (the other being St. Peter’s Basilica in the Vatican City; which I hope to do the same there before I get too old and decrepit.).

To watch this icon be destroyed due to somebody’s possible carelessness, was devastating…


…right up there with watching the majestic twin towers in New York being brought down live on national TV by some knuckleheads in 2001.

I sincerely hope and pray that President Emmanuel Macron and the people of Paris can rebuild this icon, that is both its’ heritage and its’ destiny.


some disrespect…

April 14, 2019
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The most disrespected woman in America is the black woman. The most un-protected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman — Malcolm X

This is one of those days where I feel this statement by Malcolm is an almost unbearable truth.

It’s open-season on black women. We are still not seen as someone deserving of care, love and kindness.

I despair that this will never be the reality and every time a black woman loses a child to violence, I despair.

I despair that black women are not seen as humans with feelings, that we all walk around angry, or whatever negative emotion others want to put on us for not behaving the way others think we’re supposed to.

It wears me out that I’m supposed to accept being insulted, pawed, ignored, abused, maligned and lied about. That I’m forced to do more work or suffer more pain than others and then vilified when I ask for help.

It makes me angry when I realize we are not allowed to express any genuine feeling or emotion, always placed in some cartoonish enviroment where we’re always perceived as “angry black woman”. Why is the only emotion we’re allowed is anger?

For real though…

April 14, 2019
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Portion of speech made by  Minnesota Representative Ilhan Abdullahi Omar ( “But no matter how much we have tried to be the best neighbor, people have always worked on finding a way to not allow for every single civil liberty to be extended to us.

In my opinion, this statement also applies to the state of women and any person of color in the US, right this minute!

I’m posting here “out of context” as part of the “blow up” from the one comment she made about 9/11 that was taken completely out of context by the current (p)resident blowing the dog-whistle in a tweet that contained partial information, designed to inflame his “base” constituents.

I was able to pull this partial quote from a very long tweet by from Twitter.

Read it for the whole speech. Dog whistle politics be damned.

WTF just happened?

June 20, 2018
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There is a man in the White House who should NEVER have been voted president. There is a resider in the highest office of the USA who takes children away from their parents, just because they’ve shown up at the US/Mexico border as emigres.

The thought that this country’s citizens were so afraid of having a WOMAN president, that it put an unqualified, poorly educated person in that office.

This country is so AFRAID of a strong woman president, that it has cut its’ own throat in the global arena so she would not get there.

The release of all that DETRIMENTAL information about HRC was done deliberately. To cost her the election PERIOD.

The current White House tenant had a lot of help to accomplish this theft. Ultimately, after all the investigations, testimony, reports, tweets, news articles “fake”, mainstream and real media, the TV talking heads, the news at 11 and fecklessness, it’s going to come out that this country was so afraid of a STRONG woman finally running the country, that they have all perjured, fabricated, slandered, libeled and STOLE, to keep that from happening. The people who voted for this squatter, bought the lies hook, line and stinks to high heaven.

It doesn’t matter how long it takes Mueller and team to get to the bottom of this travesty, as long as they get to the bottom of it…

This is a monumental crime that has been perpetrated upon the people of the United States and anything that happens while this investigation is ongoing is a smoke screen from this truth.

The elephant in the room is the fact that with all of the strides society has made, this country has unequivically stated it is NOT ready for a woman head of the country.

We can run dynasties, families, companies, homes, restaurants, tanks, planes, you name it, but not the United States of America.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it…

the Golden Rule no longer applies

May 9, 2018
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The problem we have today is there is a “slippage” in morals, in being respectful, courteous, kind, polite, honest and concerned for fellow man. We look around at the lack, not so much of religion, but of civility. That thing that makes us human, the ability to empathize with someone, not cognizant of a person’s color, gender, nationality. We have lost the concept of this country that is being welcoming of all people in spite of the way this country began.


Religion was a great controller of people without putting much effort into it. Hire a preacher, get a stack of bibles, pass them out and then guide and direct people to those passages that made them behave in a way that was “acceptable to GOD”. It’s actually society working to control the masses. Religion, church and spirituality are mutually exclusive (and that’s a story for another day).


Religion slipping away is one thing. Morals slipping away is something else entirely. The internet may be largely to blame for this slippage. It’s become the place to go to say and do things one cannot do out in the open. People form opinions about themselves and others, because there is no self-editing. You can say what you want, become someone else and make up what ever story you like that fits the online persona. The Golden Rule no longer applies.


The problem with that, what you say and do unfiltered online, seeps into the common speech, in the loss of being courteous. I’d bet money that the old lady in the restaurant who disrespected the pregnant soldier had been in a chat room or on a website that told her that black people (in the 21st century!) are animals that need to be neutered and corralled so they can’t breed, infest or infect the many good (white) people who are struggling to keep a roof over their heads, food on their tables and clothes on their children’s backs.


There are way too many stories online, on TV and in magazines and newspapers daily talking about a black person was shot, arrested, jailed or in some manner persecuted just because they are black. The ultimate conspiracy is the fact that black men make up the majority of the nation’s prison population. I guess that’s one way to make sure another MLK or Malcolm won’t crawl out of the woodwork


People of color are daily subjected to overt and covert racism, bigotry, bias, insults, the slings and arrows of outrageous persecution, psychological trauma, mental anguish, overt and covert taunts; the likes of which haven’t been seen since the days when lynching was the norm to keep the “colored” population “in check”.


That was outlawed. So now, instead of a rope, people use words, laws, rules that are designed to slowly bleed away the rights of brown-skinned people, the world over. People have become so comfortable with this once again overt racism, they even managed to put a man in an office who should never have been put in there in the first place. Trump is so unfit to be president, I think if Sigmund Freud were alive, he’d be scratching his head. Classic narcissistic tendencies, a touch megalomanical, manipulative, sociopath who surrounds himself with syncophants and enablers, including his children who have been in thrall since birth.


I’ve noticed that when people think you’re actually happy, comfortable or peaceful, they make it their business to cause some sort of psychological trauma to disrupt those conditions. They’re unhappy, uncomfortable and not peaceful, so they want to you be that way also. My ex-husband called that “crab in the barrel syndrome”.


It’s a situation where you’re somewhere and for some odd reason, people think it’s ok to either victimize you or be rude and to them it’s entertainment of some kind. Somehow you’re being punished for being somewhere you’re not wanted  or because you’re perceived as “different”.


I’m living in a city where people don’t invite different people into their circles so that what you have is a stagnated environment where nothing improves or changes because no one wants to invite new ideas or new ways or new concepts into their lifestyle or system or group of friends.

They avoid this by assuming that because a person looks a certain way, they can’t be anything other than what someone else says you are, not what you say you are. If someone tries to present themselves as other than what everybody else does, that person becomes “crazy” “funny-acting”  or some other label/handle that misses the mark entirely. People here need to start discarding assumptions about someone that are based on the way a person looks or what stupid high school someone went to. Looks have absolutely nothing to do with a person’s education, life experiences, abilities, etc. You can’t f**ing categorize anybody  by something so trivial as high school and who someone is as an adult has nothing to do with high school.  Perhaps a personality was formed during high school, but if you keep living, you hopefully get many years away from that event for it to make a difference in the big picture.

There must be a way to tear down those psychological barriers that only serve to hold everyone back from their true potential.



“The Apprentice” was a scripted show

May 12, 2017
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ladies and gentlemen, I’m here to tell you that you have put a man in office who became a TV star as the “leader” of a scripted show.  your current president has absolutely no skill to run an entity as ephemeral and dynamic as a country. we are not a script to be followed. we are a living, breathing entity and you have picked the wrong man to run it.

the same thing happened with Richard Nixon and since you have forgotten your history, it is about to repeat itself.

On April 30, 1973, Nixon fired Dean and Ehrlichman and Haldeman resigned.

Subsequent investigation revealed that President Nixon had a tape-recording system in his offices and that he had recorded many conversations.

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